What Makes Someone Undateable?
We've all been on dates. Maybe you lucked out and had one incredible date after another, but the other 99.9999% of us have encountered a personality trait we would rather live without. Some people suffer from a excess of these traits, and we who have suffered through it have had enough!
Most of these folks aren't exactly undateable, but almost everyone can agree that these 5 things are a major turn-off:
1. He/she is always talking about how unhappy they are.
I know that life is full of ups and downs, and no one is immune to that. Billionaires have bad days - heck, even Bill Gates loses his keys sometimes. The point is, we all have good and bad in our lives - and it's up to us to decide which one to focus on. I'm not talking about people with depression, or some sort of issue that they are working through - I'm talking about people that actively decide to feed the negative side of life by wallowing in their every bad moment. No one wants to date a sad sack.
2. They are only nice to their crush.
This one can sneak up on you. If your date is sweet, kind, funny, and cool - that's a win! If that attitude changes the moment they speak with someone they deem "unimportant," beware. This is probably most evident in a dinner setting when the waiter/waitress visits your table. If you date talks to them like they are the help - run for the hills!
3. He/she enjoys bashing other people.
Let's be honest, we are all guilty of having a laugh at another's folly. But some folks make a terrible habit of frolicking in other's misery - and it shows. If your date gets that excited look in their eye when bad-mouthing strangers, co-workers, friends, or even family - you can bet your bottom that they will be bashing you as soon as you are not around. Most likely to the people they were talking bad about with you!
4. They can't manage their money.
Everyone has money problems. We've all been in a pinch, but some folks live there. I'm not talking about someone coming from a poor background, or someone recovering from a devastating financial catastrophe - I'm talking about a person that spends their rent on Beanie Babies because "the market's about to turn around." This person could be looking for a financial life raft (you).
5. They have poor hygiene.
This is perhaps one of the first signs you will be aware of, as it takes no conversation at all to notice. Dressing sloppy could be a fashion choice, but lack of showering is not sexy at all. You need to at least bathe, brush your teeth, and become familiar with deodorant of some kind before you go out on a date.
If you have one or more of these traits, you are not truly undateable. You have two options. You could work on being a bit more compassionate, caring, and clean - or you could find someone that shares your peculiarities.